How Was Your Year?

We find ourselves here again. Back to the beginning. Or the end, depending on how you want to look at it. 365 days have past. Relationships faded. New relationships blossomed. Careers evolved. Careers perished. In the last week of December, in the final days of years end, I always take a personal inventory of the year. I asked myself the same questions I asked 365 days prior.

“What has happened? Have I grown? What mistakes have I made? Have I achieved what I wanted?”

I can answer all of these quickly without hesitation. But, I’ve added a new question this year, one that carries more weight.

“Am, I, happy?”

The short answer has been, no. However, being the half glass full bloke that I am, I’ve taken active steps to change that narrative.

“What actually makes me happy?”

For me, the answer lies heavily on my career and physical/mental health. So I’ve knuckled down. I’ve taken action. What that actually translates to has been sacrifice. But has it been too much sacrifice? Again, the answer is simple. Yes.

I first moved to LA in 2008 on a modeling contract, in hope to pursue a career as an actor. And I did it! Some years have been more successful than others, and that story will continue through 2022.

However, I’ve realized that I haven’t had balance. I put all of my energy into my career and making my dreams become my reality. Through the process I’ve sacrificed friendships, family events, my own mental and physical health, romantic relationships, and so on. I wasn’t taking care of myself and I was always extending beyond my capacity in order to help others with their careers, with very little in return. Don’t get me wrong, there have been several key players who have continuously supported me over the years and they know who they are, and to them I am eternally grateful.

So what actually makes me happy? My family. My dog. The small circle of friends close to my heart. Yes, my career makes me happy, but it’s not the only thing.

Personally I don’t believe in making New Years resolutions, simply due to the fact that they tend to be short lived. We all enter a new year with the greatest intentions. We want to turn our lives around and kick-start a new chapter and most feel that the new year marks the beginning of that chapter.

But did you know that 60% of us will make New Year’s resolutions, but only 8% of us will be successful in achieving them. I read this on Poosh and my mouth dropped. Talk about making a bad investment!

Instead, I’d rather make goals. Achievable goals, spaced out throughout the year are much easier to handle in my personal experience. I’m going into the new year with hope and the knowledge that balance is key to success. Preparation meets opportunities, and the opportunities for happiness are endless!

Happy New Year’s, my darlings! May the next 365 days bring you laughter, joy, success and happiness.

— Alexander

Buffy Lover & Whiskey Drinking Gent. I Pen Screenplays, Novels, & Also Act. Founder/CEO of Bellator Magazine, a Bi-Annual Coffee Table Book ✍🏼🥃🎭🇬🇧🇺🇸

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Alexander Rain

Alexander Rain

Buffy Lover & Whiskey Drinking Gent. I Pen Screenplays, Novels, & Also Act. Founder/CEO of Bellator Magazine, a Bi-Annual Coffee Table Book ✍🏼🥃🎭🇬🇧🇺🇸

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